What’s your take on splitting the bill when eating out with your date?
Before you continue (or you might not), there are some words for you!
很合理 Hěn hélǐ : very reasonable
各付各的 gè fù gè de : to pay for what you order
我請客 Wǒ qǐngkè: It’s on me./ My treat
熱戀期 rèliàn qī: the very first stage in the relationship. Couples fall in love madly with each other and ignore all the shortcomings on their partners during this period.
愛情長跑 àiqíng chángpǎo: to describe a long-term relationship, 長跑 is long run, so it’s saying the love between couples is like the long run, steady and sturdy.
秋後算帳 qiū hòu suàn zhàng: to pick at someone afterward.
有助於yǒu zhù yú: something is helpful to something.
There’s nothing that can arouse more debate than the issuing of who should take care of the bill. Several generations ago, the phrase “Dutch” or “Dutch the bill" wasn’t introduced because men would usually take care of this. But as people are growing more financially independent, especially women, splitting the bill became a common practice among young people. There’re indeed many ways in terms of “splitting the bill”, we can divide the total per head, we can split the bill based on individual consumption, and we can split food and drink bills. It is mindboggling just to imagine how many times one needs to ask others about what and how much they order, right?
Based on my history of eating out with friends, plus so many embarrassing moments standing in front of the cashier and meeting the eyes of waiters without knowing how much to pay, I have the right to say that I don’t like to split the bill. I hate to argue with my friends over who should pay what and whether to round up the service fee. Such petty things don’t worth my time. But sometimes those few dollars topped up in my bill still make me feel somewhat irritated. Of course, I would never bring this issue up with my friends, perhaps out of embarrassment, but over a few times, I started to realize that’s indeed an interesting topic to discuss.
So I have my Taiwanese friends answer the questions.
Bridget, 23, Taichung
I think it’s very reasonable. If you go out to dinner with the same sex, you know that you have to pay for what you ordered. It doesn’t make sense to suddenly forget this when eating out with the opposite sex. I think it is the most basic rule of being a human being? I don’t know…
Jean, 33, Taipei
Very good, everyone pays their own living expenses ~ there will be no pressure on each other
Chen, 22, Taichung
I think it’s okay to treat one party occasionally, but it’s too much if I need to cover up the bill every time, and I will feel a little despised.
Erin, 19, Taichung
Whether it is a couple in love, a couple talking about marriage, or couples in a long-term relationship, as long as they are not married, they are just couples, then stick to their roles as boyfriend/girlfriend, and they must split the bill to avoid breaking up. Unless you are 100% confident that you will get married, or you are not married but 100% sure that neither of you will pick at each other afterward, which is another story. But if today is the birthday of the other or there is something worth celebrating, then the man/woman will let their partners pay if they want. After all, when necessary, the other party’s “sense of being needed” needs to be satisfied, so that he/she has a sense of “being needed”. You’ve done something”, which helps increase intimacy.
Ariel, 22, Taichung
Splitting the bill is very important! No one owes anyone in a relationship, it is equal.
Cindy, 24, Taichung
I think splitting the bill is pretty good, the taking turns to treat each other is also good.
Heidi, 19, Texas
I usually pay for my own consumption.
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